Why Fixing Yourself Isn’t The Answer June 9, 2018 What does “wellness” mean to you? Is it being healthy and happy? Having great coping skills? Feeling strong and vibrant? All of that and more? Or, maybe it is figuring out how to love kale, change your body, and no longer feeling the pain of emotional wounds. Maybe it’s just impossible… Maybe wellness is complex… Read More
How To Find Joy In The Little Things Think not lightly of good, saying “It will not come to me.” Drop by drop is the water pot filled. Likewise, the wise one, gathering it little by little, fills oneself with good. ~ The Dhammapada Edwin walked into my office with a heavy cloud of frustration leading the way. He told me the ways… Read More
Why Do You Want What You Want? May 31, 2018 Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray. ~ Rumi I am fascinated by the creation of things – books, paintings, bowls, family, health. I’m not super attached to the what, but rather, the how. I also have a dream of writing a… Read More
How Expectations Can Keep You From Feeling Good Enough May 24, 2018 We live in a culture deeply infatuated with easy, immediate, perfect, and the way it should be. We love an over-simplified option of “this” or “that”. I mean, who doesn’t prefer having two clear cut options over complicated explanations and insights requiring thought and consideration? Turn on the news. You’ll watch it happen on… Read More
What I Know To Be True About You May 17, 2018 I did a business exercise recently to figure out what I should be blogging about on a regular basis. When you put a lot of effort into writing, there’s the added bonus when someone actually reads it… To get someone to read it requires that I write about something they (aka you) might be interested… Read More
The Power of the Pause May 10, 2018 We do an annual board meeting in our house. We make strategies for business, process challenges, plan the calendar, set budgets and goals, and generally make sure we are on the same page. Over time, it has evolved into one of my favorite events of the year. I love setting aside 4 days to… Read More
Are You Tired of Being Tired? May 3, 2018 I had a journaling prompt once to consider how my life will be summed up after I’m gone. In just a few quick paragraphs, how will the entirety of Rosemary Clark be described? The obvious point of the exercise is to identify what deeply matters to you. Let’s see…. The people I love and call… Read More
Why Always Being Positive Decreases Your Happiness April 26, 2018 It’s true. Being positive, no matter what, doesn’t make you happy. In fact, this behavior has the opposite effect and decreases your happiness. It’s so ineffective that some folks refer to this practice as “pathological positivism”. Please let me explain. Despite currently being referred to as Polly Positive on a regular basis, I was initially… Read More
Do You Have a Love / Hate Relationship With Social Media? April 19, 2018 I have my own heroes in the self help world. I have followed and devoured the works of Marianne Williamson, Clarissa Pinkola-Estes, Oriah, Caroline Myss, and Robert Holden for years. I haven’t chatted with them, they don’t know me, and yet, they have most definitely been some of the most influential people in my life. … Read More
You Can’t Cook a Turkey in 10 Minutes April 11, 2018 “There are years that ask questions and years that answer.” ~Zora Neale Hurston I have been accused of being a Polly Positive kind of person and my approach to 2017 was right in line with what you would expect. At least that’s what it sounded like when I talked about it. And I meant… Read More
What Healthy People Have In Common February 2, 2017 The strangest thing keeps happening. Like this. I have a friend who is in her 60s. I know this sounds a bit cliche, but truly, she doesn’t look a day over 40. Folks are amazed and when they find out how old she is. often exclaim “No way”, they say, “what good genes you have!”. She… Read More
The Secret Behind Resolutions January 18, 2017 Are you still going gangbusters on your New Year’s resolutions? I hope you are, but if you are like most, continuing change gets difficult. You may even be completely off the track. You are skipping the gym, arguing with your spouse, and ignoring the changes you decided to make. “I’m not disciplined enough to make… Read More