Do you remember your childhood dreams?  Everything was possible, wasn’t it?  And all the possibilities came without judgment.   I remember playdates where my own dream of traveling was equal to my friend’s dream of being a homemaker, or another’s of becoming president.  We didn’t call one dream better than the other.  Somehow we understood the sacred qualities of a dream and we honored the process for each other.
As we age our dreams tend to get more rigid and practical.  We want the job, the car, the savings account, the exercise routine…
There’s no doubt this list is important.  It also comes with expectations and judgment.  We start quantifying our efforts with “success”, “failure”, “importance”, “necessity”.  And as logic follows with this “all or nothing thinking”, we take away the magical possibilities found somewhere in the middle.  It’s easy to get focused on a goal and become so fixed on what the finish line is supposed to look like, that it looks too hard to even get started.  However, I don’t think that’s the point with goals.  They call us forward to action in our lives, and as we get deeper into them, we may realize that we need to change to a different course of action.
Maybe your goal is to run a marathon, or to increase your education for promotion possibilities.
Perhaps preparing for that marathon turns into a love of half marathons, or just regular running for fun, and not wanting to participate in official races.  Or, the return to grad school morphs into a second major in a different field.  We would miss out on these opportunities if we stayed fixed on what we just had to achieve.  Flexibility keeps us moving into new and satisfying places.  Doors open to new possibilities we didn’t even know existed before we began.
If we insist that the initial goal is what we “should” do then everything else is a failure. Really?  Think on it.  Would you call someone who runs regularly a failure because they did not participate in marathons?  Or, someone who was pursuing their education a failure because they were getting a different degree, or going part-time rather than full-time?  I certainly wouldn’t. This judging we do keeps us from becoming the person we aspire to be. It keeps us from living the life we long to live.
That sort of judgement tells us we aren’t capable.  The voice taking center stage declares “I don’t have what it takes.  I can’t do this.”  Sometimes it even shouts out in dramatic fashion “My dreams are ridiculous.  This is too hard.  I should be content with less.”
Your dreams are where joy is happening!  Our dreams are often enormous and hard.  And that is so ok. Because something doesn’t come easy, doesn’t mean it isn’t the path to be on. More on that next week…
Here’s to the dreams you have for your life.  I hope they inspire you to try, to begin, to engage, to change, to move, to become, to risk failure, to show up BIG in your life,
Rosemary

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